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Often times the burden we carry as women derives from the erroneous decisions taken when choosing our lifetime partners. The connection we make with these men leads us to believing that we have found our “perfect match” or soul mate! Then without hesitation, we disregard contemplating or the urge to seek guidance through giving ourselves time to know what the “perfect match” is all about nor who he really is. “Bear in mind that not every women has put proper thought and deliberation prior to sealing God’s union and covenant which is meant to never be broken.”
Genesis 2:18 -; “Then the Lord said ‘it is not good for man to be alone, I will make him a helper suitable for him”. Then the man said; “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh”
Marriage is a beautiful union. It is a covenant between two people and God. However, over the decades, marriage has become more of a burden to God’s most wonderful creation, Women!
This book is about the burden we carry as women in our marriages. Deriving from the decision we made on the partner we ourselves chose to spend our lifetime with. We come across these men that we believe are our soul mates, men we have never truly contemplated what they are truly all about. Men, whom not enough thought was put in before God’s union was sealed.
How often does it occur that a woman really asks herself whether the man she has chosen to be with, is the kind of partner God desires for her or that when she agreed to spend her lifetime with this man it was for the right reasons? As the Lord says, “A helper suitable for him.” Are we ever certain that we marry the man chosen by God for us and that we are suitable for him?
Getting married is always a great decision to make, however, when that decision is made based on the wrong reasons then the path ahead becomes rather onerous.
As women, we are so consumed with the idea of getting married as if it is some sort of achievement and sadly the ideas and pressure we succumb to, have limited us in such a way that the now is the only thing we ponder upon. We have these false beliefs that things will change during the marital journey and that is only a figment of the imagination. We have fooled ourselves to such an extent that we have settled over misleading thoughts such as, nothing is perfect so we might as well just get into it, without doing due diligence on the individual we have entrusted and planned to spend the rest of our lives with. Not forgetting, the misconception of every girl’s dream being a princess in a white wedding gown! As silly as it sounds, that idea combined with the pressures of society which sets out a specific age for when a woman should be married and bear children. These round up to being major contributing factors to women finding themselves with men they never truly anticipated a real marriage with. Regretfully serving as a false foundation for marriage, a recipe for complete disaster!
With all said, I completely believe in the sanctity and beauty of marriage. I believe that when God has appointed you a partner and brought you together as suitable companions for each other, and proper thought has been put around the most important aspects needed to build a good marriage with true love being the essence of it, it then makes marriage the most beautiful and fulfilling union. I also accept the reality that there is no perfect marriage regardless of whether all the right boxes have been ticked. However, I have grown to know that when one ignores the signs and makes a decision based on the wrong reasons, then what is meant to be God’s covenant will only be an enormous burden to carry. Gradually becoming almost impossible to carry over the years.
Therefore, as you read this book, the various characters of men written about, are men we have all encountered at some point in our lives. You will be able to identify with a number of characters mentioned, some of whom are men you have either dated in your past or are currently committed to and others are men you now call your husbands. Their personalities, attitudes, values, habits and social relationships being of paramount significance in making your marriage a success or failure, these attributes needing to be observed and carefully thought through. As a lot of marriages could last a lifetime and be completely fulfilling in all aspects, with flaws that could be easily overlooked and repaired, only if we as women, fearfully and wonderfully made as we are, would look at the signs and ask ourselves if we would be able to live with what we see because what we see is who the man is, his true self and true character. Then that is when we can honestly ask ourselves, if whether we would be able to build a life with the man we choose or have chosen to take this lifelong marital journey with.
As the signs were always there and yet we marry them.
